How to Make Your Kids Feel Included at the Wedding

Perhaps the most obvious way to go about this is to have the children be in the bridal party. Depending on the ages, they can be a flower girl, ring bearer, junior or regular bridesmaid, groomsman, maid of honor, or best man. While we normally love to see mixed-gender bridal parties, there is also something very sweet about seeing a groom ask his future stepson to stand beside him. Children escorting their parents down the aisle also will often bring a tear to the eyes of guests. Alluding to them in the ceremony is also a lovely touch that highlights the familial aspect of the day.

Though there are probably components of the big day where you don’t want to compromise your vision, consider asking the opinion of the kids on things that are a lower priority. Naturally, the cake is something children can be passionate about – bring them to a tasting! 

If there aren’t a lot of cousins or other kids for your children to hang out with during the celebration, think about letting them have their own plus one. Sure, unless they are teenagers they won’t exactly have a date in mind, but allowing your child’s best pal to attend will give them someone to play with and keep them from being bored at an adults-only affair. Kids tables with fun activities will lead to treasured memories instead of resentment. If your venue has a separate space or alcove, this also allows you to entertain the children without having to sacrifice your dream reception. 

Read how to tell the kids about your engagement, discover how to entertain kids at your wedding, and learn how to fit in with your in-laws.