What Your Bridesmaids Should Know Before Planning Your Shower

However, it’s still most common for the maid of honor or bridesmaids to offer to throw a shower. While the discourse online will frequently note that you should not expect such things from your bridesmaids, it’s likely that at one point they will ask about a bridal shower. In your efforts to not seem demanding, don’t forget to actually provide the information they need to host the fête you’ve imagined.

The Guest List
For starters, they need to know the guest list. Taking a stab at that can be very risky, particularly when it comes to including the right relatives from your future spouse’s family. Don’t forget the addresses too! If you have a few different social circles, the host of your shower may not have a way to contact prospective attendees on their own.

Prospective Dates
Knowing when to host the party is key as well. It’s one thing to share when you’re going to be out of town, but your bridesmaids may not know that August is a busy time at work. Offer a few options so they can figure out what works best with their own schedules. 

Preferred Details
As long as they ask for input, it’s okay to share a theme you’ve always dreamed of or a preferred color scheme. Just try not to micromanage – because remember, you’re not the one planning!

What You Don't Want
If you have anything you absolutely dread about bridal showers – perhaps a particular game you played at one in the past – then speak up. The last thing anyone wants is for you to be miserable at your own party. 

For more tips, find out what pre-wedding events are necessary, what to do at a coed shower, and get ideas for bridal shower themes and activities.